Betrayal & Forgiveness

When we’re betrayed, typically we turn our backs on the people who have done it. I think we go through that because we feel like we’re not going to be okay after.

We take it personal, as if we’re broken or even looking for an excuse for the other person. But sometimes we’re no better than the people who has betrayed us.

Hold on. Don’t get dismissive or offended. Sometimes we forget it’s not about us. People act on their own and of their own free will. It’s unfortunate because RESPECT is what is expected and because of betrayal we can only assume the person doesn’t respect or love us. I’ll be the first to say if someone betrays you they don’t respect you, but love has nothing to do with that. You can’t control how people do you, but you can accept how they treat you or not. Betrayal hurts, and it’s ugly. You can only be betrayed if you put something into someone, and they give you the opposite in return. It fucks you up in so many ways, and for so many reasons.

Let me tell you though, forgiveness heals a lot we don’t wanna let go. When you forgive someone who betrays you, it frees you in more ways than one. It signifies that you’re not a person who wants to be punished. You’re not a person who feels as though you need to be tortured. You’re not a punching bag !  You get to move on, and whether you see it or not; it covers you from hurt.. AND SETS YOUR BOUNDARIES!!!! When you hold on to things that have hurt you, you ultimately say “you have the power over me”. If God gives free will then who the hell are we to take it away. LET IT GO!!

I pray this helps ! 🫶🏼