Who advocates for her?

Darling, I wrote this almost a week ago. Then I said maybe this is too much, too raw, and uncut. Then I finally read it today, and said I’m not taking anything out. Sooo.. here goes.

Y’all.. it was time to go to bed and I got triggered. LISTEN TO ME! Lol I got triggered. My man is out with his father and brother, and I was talking to him about whether to wait up or not.. and I thought to myself. “Well if I wait up, I can eat a little snack before bed”.. then I was like here we go again.

Y’all are gonna see what I’m talking about in a minute.

I thought about since we’ve been together.. the stereotypes of “a man’s plate should be made first”. Y’all I fell down the rabbit hole because, it made me think about in so many places where a woman comes last. “Make that mans plate because you make the kids plate..” ok so when do I make my plate? When do I sit down and eat? I don’t know a mother. Not an egg carrier, a mother. Who would make her man’s plate, then her plate.. sit down and eat and then feed her kids. Now listen so I don’t lose you, you have to put your listening ears on beloved.

The “sense” about making a man’s plate first is that he eats first. Correct??? So if you say, “the moms plate is made afterwards”. So you’re saying she will eat before her children. However, like I said.. I don’t know a mother that would sit down and eat before her children ate.

Women are still fighting for their own. No matter what it is. It has just gotten to the point now where it is identity. Another topic for another day.

First it was being considered equal. Then it was women’s right.. now it’s the right to be be a woman. Then let’s not forget figuring out where she fits within her household. Let me ask you something, how many times does a woman get to consider her damn self before she considers someone else?

See automatically she’s “someone” or “something” to someone else.

“Daughter”

“Sissy”

“Mommy”

“Doctor”

“Wife”

“Confident”

“Teacher”

When she fights for her identity she’s told that she’s unruly! A mess! Problematic.. a fool.. TOO MASCULINE!!!!! Omgshhhh too masculine.

You know why I believe the earth is a woman; a feminine energy and divinity? Most believe the sun to be masculine. It took the sun to scorch and heat up the earth for anybody to even know she was depleting to begin with. We’ve heard about global warming for years.. it wasn’t until the sun started causing more cancer, and sullying the environment that people actually listened to what was going on.

I’ve been a woman advocating for men. Feeling like men are never heard. Our black men in particular because, I AM a black woman. Looking back on a video I heard today about, sometimes having to be everything that man needs you to be.. and sometimes he needs you to be able to STFU. When and where is that advocated for any woman? It made me look at my own relationships.. I’ve been a sister, partner, and daughter.. to men. When has anyone ever asked what I wanted when it wasn’t beneficial for them? Even a “how you doing?”  Most wanna know you’re ok, so you can do their bidding or take care of them.

When does the twilight zone end? When do the masses stick up for the carriers of life? This is so much deeper than this 10 minute read, but baby listen. If this life hasn’t taught you anything else, it’s that the advocating starts within first.

It’s not that you don’t need anyone, don’t ever feel like that. It’s that you need you first, and those who are in your divine alignment.. to protect themselves and heal along side you.. they’re going to find their way to you.. and you won’t have to subject yourself to a certain role.. and for damn sure not a written part to play. The Creator doesn’t work like that. We’re all created equal in the Creators image, so guess what you don’t have to consider one more than you consider the other. Yes, men were made for their specific abilities, and so were women.. but women were not created to be less than a man.

I pay this helps. 💕